tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4707581537535957844.post1702316478750332615..comments2023-11-02T08:50:54.470-07:00Comments on A Fish's Beach Wishes: Life Ain't Easy, for anyone...shabby girlhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03991126161405336712noreply@blogger.comBlogger14125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4707581537535957844.post-33563152194395701452009-05-18T07:07:00.000-07:002009-05-18T07:07:00.000-07:00OH so much wisdom shared here. I am blessed in re...OH so much wisdom shared here. I am blessed in reading, especially the honesty and truth in Scriptor's sharing. He's right...really. I've often thought of the days when I'm old and what may become of me in these circumstances and I think to myself...I could possibly find happy in anywhere...yes; yet, I wouldn't want to be lost and forgotten by my beautiful grown men :o). There are three - I know that there will atleast be one who keeps loving up momma when the day comes. I would never expect them to "take care of me" though. God has placed many loving people with a gift to care, to love, to show kindness to those who can't care for themselves alone. There is a reason...because we aren't all built with this gift.Heatherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04693495698843336789noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4707581537535957844.post-2911594083431024642009-05-17T12:17:00.000-07:002009-05-17T12:17:00.000-07:00Janice-you are truly a wonderful friend. I am bles...Janice-you are truly a wonderful friend. I am blessed to have you in my life!shabby girlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03991126161405336712noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4707581537535957844.post-88670016557472135642009-05-17T12:15:00.000-07:002009-05-17T12:15:00.000-07:00SS-you bring tears to my eyes! Wow. I can only i...SS-you bring tears to my eyes! Wow. I can only imagine what that must have been like being in the same house. She lived with us for 6 months after the encephalitis and I knew I couldn't do that again. <br />Thank you so much for sharing your experience and wisdom with me!shabby girlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03991126161405336712noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4707581537535957844.post-49673242371134183652009-05-17T11:06:00.000-07:002009-05-17T11:06:00.000-07:00I love you so much. Wish I could give you a great ...I love you so much. Wish I could give you a great big hug! Anything I could say, you already know. There are no easy answers, and no perfect solutions. Re-read Scriptor Senex, and then read it again. It's a question of balance, and of what you can live with. On either side. I'm here for you anytime you want.Janicehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12569922534640135830noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4707581537535957844.post-72014843769646894892009-05-17T09:41:00.000-07:002009-05-17T09:41:00.000-07:00Never mind what you owe to your husband / mum in t...Never mind what you owe to your husband / mum in these circumstances. Think first of all about what you owe to yourself. My parents lived with us and lived into their nineties. I made mistakes thinking that every holday with them would be the last, etc, etc, etc... Consequently I put my own needs and those of my wife off for far too long. Our parents may have brought us up and cared for us but there is a limit to what we owe them when it impacts too severely on our own future. And its not even a question of whether or not you get thanked for it - it's simply what you should do for your own sanity, health and happiness. <br /><br />The main thing is not to feel guilty about whatever you decide. You can only do so much.<br /><br />End of lecture - sorry but its a subject that experience has made me feel strongly about!<br /><br />Lots of Love<br />SSScriptor Senexhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17795521284516432520noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4707581537535957844.post-2806736508553347862009-05-16T19:34:00.000-07:002009-05-16T19:34:00.000-07:00I do so appreciate everyone's support. God knows ...I do so appreciate everyone's support. God knows I needed to hear that to make sure I'm on the right path. I do plan on a letter to her and my brother, a nice one, I might add, explaining my feelings after our talk. I have to be careful, because she doesn't get the whole encephalitis aspect of it, and I certainly don't want to hurt her feelings or make her feel like she is lacking in any way. But I think she needs to know that I don't feel it is inappropriate for me to make plans. Like I said, I love her, and don't want to make things worse. I'll let you know how it goes. Thanks again for your words of wisdom.shabby girlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03991126161405336712noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4707581537535957844.post-70240867213752381592009-05-16T18:49:00.000-07:002009-05-16T18:49:00.000-07:00My heart goes out to you. You just have to do wha...My heart goes out to you. You just have to do whatever you feel is right. I think that you've done your part and you have the right to focus on your life too, but you need to decide on what makes you feel comfortable with yourself.pamhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02651944290195111894noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4707581537535957844.post-56996486849734228882009-05-16T18:07:00.000-07:002009-05-16T18:07:00.000-07:00My heart aches for you too. You are such a wonder...My heart aches for you too. You are such a wonderful daughter and your mom does know that in her heart. I'll be praying for you and your mom. Stick with your plans. I'm sure it will all work for the best.septembermomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01570525910483384484noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4707581537535957844.post-71780084761446939462009-05-16T17:09:00.000-07:002009-05-16T17:09:00.000-07:00My heart feels for you. I lost both of my parents...My heart feels for you. I lost both of my parents too quickly -- one to cancer and the other to a stroke -- so I can't begin to understand how hard it is on you. Yet, it sounds like you have been there for your mother all these years and that makes you a wonderful person. I agree with making your plans. And, if you do get to do that traveling, you had better blog it! Keep your chin up.amuse mehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17107288250737832143noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4707581537535957844.post-17015270868983570092009-05-16T16:34:00.000-07:002009-05-16T16:34:00.000-07:00I hope things work out for the best. I can only i...I hope things work out for the best. I can only imagine the inner turmoil this is causing you. My thoughts and best wishes are with you and your family.<br />Take CareAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00718995173309662787noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4707581537535957844.post-40671254170663167332009-05-16T12:51:00.000-07:002009-05-16T12:51:00.000-07:00I'm so sorry you are faced with this. It is a diff...I'm so sorry you are faced with this. It is a difficult situation. No matter what I did for my mother it was never enough and I was single and able to do a lot. It sounds to me you have gone the extra mile. In my opinion, no matter the age if we have any cognitive ability we are responsible for our own emotional well being. We, as individuals have the ability to find happiness and contentment in our lives. No one can do it for us. I think sometimes we lose sight of that fact. I agree with Cynthia-- bondage never brings a good outcome.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4707581537535957844.post-60092359573514920602009-05-16T11:18:00.000-07:002009-05-16T11:18:00.000-07:00Dear shabby girl with the big big heart:
I am so s...Dear shabby girl with the big big heart:<br />I am so sorry for the pain of this dilemma that you are in. <br />After you have done all that you can, which to me, it sounds like you've gone above and beyond, I think it's ok to go ahead with your plans. In fact, I would start now. Start traveling now. Parent/Child relationships (or any others for that matter) are not to include bondage in the "rule" book. <br />Peace to you, <br />CCynthia L. H.https://www.blogger.com/profile/13626090956828108370noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4707581537535957844.post-89039612848549813902009-05-16T11:17:00.000-07:002009-05-16T11:17:00.000-07:00I've read this and don't really know what to say, ...I've read this and don't really know what to say, other than that I've listened...I'm in a difficult time with my dad, now also. Not quite the same, but it's truly hard to be in this position with our elderly parent (86 - wow!).<br /><br />I've watched my in-laws with their parents ~ there are no "make everyone happy", quick answers to these life changes.<br /><br />I'll be lifting you and your family up in prayer :o)Heatherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04693495698843336789noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4707581537535957844.post-2907996862813843502009-05-16T11:16:00.000-07:002009-05-16T11:16:00.000-07:00This comment has been removed by the author.Heatherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04693495698843336789noreply@blogger.com